Hand jobs

With online dating (and really anything online), everyone should interact with each other as if you would face to face. The online experience gives a mask, a sense of anonymity, and with that gives some a false sense that they can be incredibly disrespectful and quite disgusting.

For example, I got the following message. I screenshot the email notification, since I do not have the mobile app.

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This is the first interaction. I’ve never talked to this guy. And this is the first introduction to me. I find it quite disturbing that people are doing this, and this is a normal message to get while doing online dating. If you want to go find someone to hookup, that’s great. Go to a hookup website. On my online profile specifically states wanting a relationship. There is no hint of anything for casual sex, not even a whisper.

So this makes me think. If I was at a bar, and this dude was interested in me, would he come up and say “When was the last time you gave a hand job?” wink wink? Probably not. Because of the pier influence, 9 out of 10 would be “You’re disgusting get away from me”, then making the guy humiliated. But since online doesn’t hold one accountable for their behavior and interactions with people, it’s deemed as someone normal and acceptable, and no humiliation obtained.

Now after receiving this message, I was so offended and just appalled by the notion that this guy thinks it’s OK to ask someone that. But I did think about his question. When was the last time I gave a hand job? I can’t even remember. I’m almost 30 and hand jobs should be over and done with by the latest 21. Don’t you think? Hand jobs, in my eyes, are high school fooling around. I could be wrong. And the fact that someone is trolling to find information about the time frames of hand jobs is quite pathetic. Then it just got me pissed off all over again.

Again, if you are looking for casual sex or even hand jobs, there is nothing wrong with that!! Go to an online hook up dating site. But seriously, don’t go to random people’s profiles and just start messaging them about hand jobs. If you wouldn’t say it to someone face to face, then leave it to yourself. Seriously.

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