An Open Letter to Single Ladies

To All Single Ladies,

Some of you will be single for a long amount of time (like myself), some will be single for a short amount of time. Regardless of the amount of time this is for you. Not only is this letter for you, this time that you are single IS FOR YOU.

Never think that you are not good enough because you are single. I’ve been trapped in that mind set. Whether someone has told you this or you just feel this way, stop it. You are good enough for the hottest person you can think of. And never let anyone tell you or try to make you believe that you are not good enough because you are single. I think it’s easy for us to think this when acquaintances ask “Why are you single?”.

Also, never let anyone tell you that you aren’t complete because you are single. Clearly, if they are evaluating on you, and not themselves, something is missing in their lives. They may not feel complete.

Family members have told me that I need to leave my house. And guess what, they don’t know what the fuck I do when I’m not around them. So if you have people that are bugging you about getting yourself out there to find someone, don’t let them into that part of your life. All they are trying to do is involve themselves. And guess what, your love life (or lack of) is no one’s business but your own!

To handle what others have to say, just remember RuPaul’s quote
“What other people think about me is none of my business”.
That is a quote I like to remember when I think about other people. It snaps me, at least, out of the what does this person think of me. Or this person thinks this about what I like.

You single ladies are all beautiful. The universe has you to be single for a reason. And instead of running you brain about why or how to become un-single, just enjoy it. Enjoy the time you have with yourself. I honestly used to hate myself inside and out. I hated being with myself. I would drink myself into a frenzy to numb that hateful feeling and would just explode even more hateful about myself. The more time I’ve had with myself I actually like my company and to most people I would prefer my own company. So take this time of being alone as that. A time to be with yourself and get to know yourself.

A romantic individual in your life won’t make you feel whole… only you can do that. So take this time (whether it be a long time or short) to do just that. Be whole. Be you. And fucking enjoy it! When someone comes into your life that changes everything, you won’t have this time.

You are beautiful. You are wonderful. You are good enough.

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